Thursday, 11 June 2009

Relational Beings...

God created man as relational being. This is evident from when He created Adam as we read in Genesis 1:26-27, which reads "Then God said, “Let us make human beings in our image, to be like us. They will reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, the livestock, all the wild animals on the earth, and the small animals that scurry along the ground.” 27 So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them".

Relationship is defined as a connection, association, or involvement.

Adam's first relationship was with God. He had a connection, an association and an involvement with God. However, I God wanted to increase the relational experience of man, so he created Eve. This we read in Genesis 2:18, which reads "Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”



God does want us to have relationships; but the right ones and manage them adequately.

The pattern of forming or creating and managing relationships can be likened to that of the harvest, and the steps are: Conditioning the soil, sowing the seed, watering the seed, and then reaping a harvest.


For relationships, we can write the pattern as including: Introduction, Acquaintance, Friendship and Intimacy.


In relationships, at the beginning we condition our hearts (soil) through introduction to an individual, then we get acquainted (sowing he seed) by getting to know them. When we like what we see and perceive, we then move further to work on the friendship (watering the seed) through spending time with the individual. When we are sure and affirmed and confident of the individual in areas such as their believes and maturity, we finally we move into intimacy(reaping a harvest), and this could mean marriage, or having the individual as a close friend.


In today's society, most are used to having everything in an instant. Fast cars, fast meals, fast life... and therefore fast relationships. With all this 'fastness' the relational management of most has become faulty, or none existent.

Most people seem to go from introduction to intimacy in a very short period of time, showing that they want the benefit of commitment without actually being committed to the relationship. For example, two people living together, is called involvement. However, two people married and living together, is called commitment.


Not all relationships in our lives should move on to the next level. some are meant to stay at Introduction, or Acquaintance level (pointing finger to self at this point!). It is the fact of life that there will be some people, who will be closer to us than others.

We can learn more about relational management from the life of Jesus Christ.


Jesus had a special relationship with twelve men, His disciples, as we read in Matthew 10:2-4. However, amongst those twelve men, Jesus had a special relationship with three of them - Peter, James and John. This we are affirmed when he took them up a mountain to be alone. This we read in Mathew 17:1, which reads "Six days later Jesus took Peter and the two brothers, James and John, and led them up a high mountain to be alone". Within those three men, Jesus had an even closer relationship with one of them, John.


Jesus also had relationship with other people that He managed. He had relationships with the Pharisees, He even had dinner with them. He also had relationships with His family and the people He ministered to along His way. It seemed that throughout His life, Jesus managed the people around Him, relationally, seamlessly.

To us all, the question is "How are we doing with the relationships in our lives?"

What if I have someone occupying the wrong space, relationship wise, in my life, what do I do? I hear you ask. Well we could do the following:


  • Retrain: This means to review, re-asses and re-instate the nature form and shape of the relationship. It means that we could try to re-invest into the individual by putting more effort into the relationship to build it, for example spending more time with them or getting involved more in their life, and them ours, in the hope of experiencing growth.


  • Reposition: This means that we reposition the space the this person takes in our lives. For example, if we have someone at the intimacy level, and we know they are not meant to be there, we must re-asses the relationship and move them to the right level within our lives, or if need be retire the relationship completely. This however, is not an easy thing to do because with relationships comes expectations. When expectations are not met, problems will most definitely ensue, but we must manage them all the same.


  • Retire: if the two above does not work, then it might be safe to part ways, amicably.

What is the nature, shape and form of the relationships in your life? Do you need to retrain, move or retire a few of them?

For relationships to work, they must occupy the right space, and managed so that the right investment (time and resource) is spent on them, therefore providing and yielding the right reward (harvest) to both parties, all for God's glory.

Have a great time being the all relational being that God created you to be, making Him famous along your way.


Much Love

Remi

***Picture by glimbo.com***

19 Comments:

blogoratti said...

Refrain.
Reposition.
Retire.

The three R's. Nice!

simeone said...

feels like i ahve been through these 3 R's before..
this piece is nice and loaded..
will have to re-read..
thabks for sharing...and thank you so much..

Kafo said...

i love the way you write

ng that they want the benefit of commitment without actually being committed to the relationship

this is soo true

and some relationships need to be reassessed and re evaluted. it seems a part of us expect things to stay the same and so we hang on when in some situations we are suppose to let go

Lord help mii to know your will for the relationships in my life, remove the scales from my eyes

akaBaGucci said...

Loved the soil analogy.. captured succinctly the process of migrating people.... Sometimes technology works against the process though.. being able to send multiple emails a day, phone calls, IMs and the like can create the illusion of intimacy sometimes i think...

David C Brown said...

This is fine. And to begin in our right relationship with God through Christ helps put all the other relationships in order,

Kémi Penélopê said...

I loved the part where you wrote that Adam's first connection was with God...
So after his connection with God, God gave him Eve...
God bless you for sharing your gift with us.

Debbie said...

I hear you my sister.
You said it as it is. We are relational beings and should seek to nuture the relationships in our lives. This is in line with my post on Letting Out. I just pray that we move in our reassess and re-established the relationships in our live to its rightful place.

A very well written piece

jen said...

I feel like this is a blog I should read every day. Great stuff.

Vera Ezimora said...

S'up babe!!!

Been so long since I stopped by. Haven't forgotten you oh. How body?

blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com said...

Hi there!


This is soooo valuable and I hope that many will read it and respond!

Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa

Emeka Amakeze said...

We were never created to function outside of God even in our relationships.
I thank God for the inspiration He gives you.

Believer said...

Ok this is deep, where have I been? Involvement, commitment reminds me about the chicken who asked the pig to open an egg and bacon shop with him! For the chicken that was involvement but for the pig, commitment as the pig's gotta die for you to get that bacon! Lol! This is deep.

Anyway, I'm really serious about the coffee/tea at Starbucks/somewhere else, just let me know via email!

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chichi said...

This comes right at a time when I needed to read this. Thank you.

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

"Have a great time being the all relational being that God created you to be, making Him famous along your way. "

Indeed. Thanks for sharing this wisdom

simeone said...

missing you o..hope u are cool..
hav a luvli weekend..
cheers

Remi, United Kingdom said...

Hey beautiful people, thanks for all your comments. I pray you have had an awesome week, I'm just completing a project and will upload a new post by Thursday.....

Peace & Love....

meeeee...

Simeone.. I will be back like the Reminator soon oh...

@ Believer, yes we should and we must, we can do first week in July? Have to be in church for prayer meetings all this month oh.. God is my muscle... :-)
Speak soon... oooh I'm looking forward to it..:-))))

Uzezi said...

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